10/28/2022
Parenting our children equal doesn’t mean parenting them identical-yes, this means that you’ll have to make hard decisions. The “easy” child and the “challenging” child both deserve unrelenting love, but loving the challenging child unrelentingly will at times mean you’ll have to parent the two children differently. Often, the challenging child WILL desperately need more of your time and attention.
It doesn’t mean you love the easy kiddo less, it means you love the challenging kiddo just as much-you’re not willing to leave any child behind.
When the easy kiddo gets his work done, they get to progress along with their day; when the challenging child is struggling(whether academically or emotionally), we don’t point and compare, we come alongside him and stay with him, letting him know we’re in this together. To merely toss our hands up-even when the frustration is high-is telling the child that giving up and throwing in the towel when things get hard is what we do. It sets a standard-the child will believe he can’t do hard things. This becomes a hurdle he will believe he cannot cross.
