7/11/2022
๐ฟ๐๐๐ง ๐ฅ๐ง๐๐๐๐ค๐ช๐จ ๐จ๐๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ง,
If I ever get the chance to speak to you face to face, to really have the conversation that keeps my heart pulsing through, make me tell you about the depths of shame Iโve wallered in, just enough that you can see it but not make your eyes bug.
But after I do, donโt let me walk away without telling you how I learned to crawl and claw out of its sticky deathly vice, how to breathe between its thunder, to find peace between riping waves. ๐ฝ๐๐๐๐ช๐จ๐, ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฉ, ๐ฅ๐ง๐๐๐๐ค๐ช๐จ ๐จ๐๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ง, ๐๐จ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐ฉ๐ง๐ช๐ ๐๐๐๐ฉ. The space where you pause and look around helps you see this earth a bit more clear. ๐๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐บ๐ฒ ๐ถ๐ ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐๐ต๐น๐, ๐ป๐ผ๐ ๐ด๐น๐ผ๐ฟ๐.
Hereโs the practical takeaway, the very point Iโm working to: ๐ฌ๐ผ๐โ๐น๐น ๐ป๐ฒ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ผ๐ฝ๐น๐ฒ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐๐ฒ๐๐๐-๐ฆ๐ท๐ฆ๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ฐ๐ฑ๐ญ๐ฆ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ญ๐ช๐ท๐ฆ ๐ธ๐ช๐ต๐ฉ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ญ๐ฐ๐ท๐ฆ- ๐๐ต๐ถ๐น๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐โ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐ฝ๐๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐บ ๐ฎ๐๐ฎ๐. Shame builds sticky webs, not connection. The real wins come when you stop the argument and start the connection building conversation. Until itโs safe to everyone to be at the table and speak, youโre still arguing. And arguing has a lot to do with shame. And shame builds suffocating webs.
